10 Dec 3 Things I want to share with other moms or moms to be

1. 1. Never forget the things that made you you.  Do whatever you can to keep a piece of the before you after you become a mom.  Yes you will change in massive ways and yes your priorities will change but never forgetting what brings you joy outside of being a mother is important.  It helps remind you, that you are more than just a mother.  Leave a sticky note on your mirror, keep it in the back of your head, make a vision board, whatever it takes to remind you to keep doing those things.

1. 2. The second thing is to make sure you fill your cup.  Make sure you reenergize or find time to also priortize yourself.  Because a happy mom and a energized mom is the best version you can give your family or kids. I knew early on that I needed to find whatever way I could to keep my cup full to spill over onto my daughter and keep the whole vibe and energy at home happy and peaceful.
   3. Lastly spend some time healing your mind, your expectations, your past traumas.  The more you can free your mind and soul form that kind of stuff the easier it will be to be a confident happy, safe space where you can demonstrate for you kids what healthy looks like. Before I had Emma, I had to do a lot of soul searching and self reflection to mourn the loss of what I thought my family would look like.  I had to get through the pain that changing my vision and story caused.  I had to wrestle the shame I felt that I failed to find a partner to create a traditional family unit for my child and I had to get comfortable with using new words to help share our story.  This took time and a lot of meditation to get there.  It was really important to me to not bring emotional baggage into me becoming a mother.  Children can feel your energy, even the dark hidden energy you hold onto and that is not what I wanted for my baby.